The Chameleon's Advantage: How Adaptability Became My Asset

As a life coach and keen observer of human behaviour, I used to view my ability to blend in as a weakness. I was never the boldest dresser or the life of the party.

Instead, I possessed what I regretfully termed my "social chameleon" trait – the ability to adapt and fit in anywhere, but never truly stand out.

That perspective changed dramatically during an interview for a volunteer position with Project Remake. What I had labelled a "lack" was suddenly illuminated as my unique strength. Being a social chameleon wasn't about lacking identity – it was about having the rare gift of making others feel comfortable and understood.

This adaptability has served me well throughout my career. From being the sole civilian in a Police Public Protection Unit (where officers jokingly suspected I might be an undercover agent) to connecting with students, parents and staff as a teacher, my ability to relate to diverse groups has been invaluable. I even once applied to MI6 – and looking back, perhaps my chameleon-like nature would have made me an excellent operator!

The Power of Practicing What You Preach

My journey with coaching began as a client to the wonderful coach, Phil Jordan. Initially focused on my love life and recurring relationship patterns, these sessions revealed something deeper – my self-esteem needed serious attention. Through coaching, I discovered that what I thought was indecision about relationships was actually an opportunity for profound personal growth.

One of my core beliefs is the importance of continuous growth. That's why I have my own life coach now. She helps me understand myself better in complex ways and delve in to the subtle cues that my subconscious provides.

When I first started coaching, many advised me to find a niche, but my adaptable nature drew me to work with diverse clients. It was my business mentor, Michael Serwa, who helped me embrace this as a strength rather than a limitation.

Turning Adaptability into Authenticity: Practical Steps for Readers

If you recognise yourself as a social chameleon, here are some ways to transform this trait into your superpower:

1. Reframe Your Perspective: Your ability to adapt isn't a weakness – it's a rare skill that allows you to connect deeply with others. Start noting situations where your adaptability creates positive outcomes.

2. Use Your Observational Skills: As natural observers, social chameleons often pick up on subtle social cues. Practice using these insights to build more meaningful connections.

3. Trust Your Unique Path: Don't feel pressured to be the loudest or most noticeable person in the room. Your strength lies in creating genuine connections across different social contexts.

4. Invest in Self-Discovery: Consider working with a coach or mentor who can help you recognise your unique value. Sometimes, we need an outside perspective to appreciate our natural gifts.

   
   

Remember, being adaptable doesn't mean losing yourself – it means you have the extraordinary ability to create authentic connections with people from all walks of life. That's not just a skill; it's a superpower.